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Your Questions About Generalised Anxiety Disorder History

Nancy asks…

Should I get back together with my boyfriend? PLEASE HELP.?

on tuesday, my boyfriend and i broke up. we had been dating for almost 9 months. for the past… i guess six months, he had been verbally and mentally abusive towards me. i ignored it, because i loved him. i still love him. he would tell me that i was crazy and needed mental help (i have generalized anxiety disorder and obsessive compulsive disorder), that i was a shitty girlfriend and a horrible person, that he wanted to punch me in the face, that i was worse than all of his other girlfriends, got angry when i slept, ate, or visited with my parents or best friend of 16 years, refused to talk to me when i was on vacation, asked for a “break” so he could go mess around with his friend, told me i ruined his life and made him suicidal, accused me of cheating (when he has a known history of cheating, and i’ve heard he has cheated on me), has pictures of him and the girl he supposedly cheated with as his facebook display picture when he knows i hate her, told me how pretty other girls were/sent me pictures of nude girls, etc. basically it just escalated more and more. when i got blonde highlights (i’m naturally blonde) he told me i looked fake. but when the girl he supposedly cheated on got highlights/dyed her hair blonde (naturally has dark brown hair), he told me how beautiful she looked.

anyway, he finally dumped me because i refused to talk to him while he was involved in a money laundering paypal scam. he’s been begging for me back ever since. and he’s been acting really sweet, telling me that he’ll do better, and if i give him one more chance that he won’t ever treat me badly again, and that he would treat me like a princess… and that he would never treat the most important girl in his life badly again. i told him if he could treat me right for a week or two, i’d come back (i want him to prove he can stop being a jerk for more than one or two days, i’ve given him tons of second chances). he finally compromised and gave me until sunday night, but that’s not enough. basically… should i go back to him? my parents hate him, my friends hate him… i’m at a loss. i still love him. =[

Jonjune answers:

FUCK NO!!!

You can do a hell of a lot better than him. Find someone who won’t treat you like shit and never talk to this asshole again.

Donna asks…

I filed a complaint with the office of civil rights on behalf of my disabled son and need some advice?

My 14 year old son has Asperger’s syndrome and is a targeting of bullying in school. He has an IEP and it is documented that he has Asperger’s syndrome. My son also has a generalized anxiety disorder and mild depression. This has also been known to the school and the district. My son is quiet, shy, and passive. He has a history of being bullied and teased when he was in middle school. He is now a 9th grader and has been a target of teasing and bullying. My husband and I have been to his school about these issues and to the district office. Basically, we are given “lip service” by everyone and when school administrator do question other students about their behavior they lie and say that he started or that he was engaging in “horseplay” with them. My son has no history of behavior problems or agression. The problem is he is too passive and takes a lot and has difficulty with expressing and communicating what is going on with himself and to others what is happening to him emotionally. He is emotionally hurt by the teasing and bullying and it effects him. He has lots of headaches and stomaches when he has to go to certain classes at school. Because the school and higher administration has not taken this as serious as they should I decided to file a complaint with the Office of Civil Rights on behalf of my son. The allegation is his disability makes him a target of bullying and it is interferring with him receiving a free and appropriate education in school. I told the school that I have filed this complaint and now the school wants to hold a IEP meeting to address his bullying. My question is this- should I attend this meeting or should I hold because I filed the complaint and need to let the office of civil right check into the issue? I do not want to do anything that will mess up my complaint because I do believe this issue needs to be looked into and that it will send a strong message. This school has a reputation of having a “dismissive” attitude towards parents. I need some good advice in how I should proceed.

Jonjune answers:

Absolutely go to the IEP. You must show a good faith effort to mediate this problem. But do go to this meeting with someone. They could be a friend who is there as a support person. An advocate from a parent organization. Or an attorney. If you go alone it will be your word against theirs.

Also take a tape recorder and ask permission to record what takes place. If they do not allow you to record it – take notes or ask the person with you to take notes. (And send them a copy of your notes after the fact and ask for their confirmation that what you wrote is what took place.)

It will not mess up your complaint to go to the meeting. Even if they resolve the issue for the future, it is not resolved for the past.

(I am in a mediation process with the Department of Justice currently. I am acting as an advocate for a person who filed a complaint.)

My son has special needs and I filed a complaint against his school should I attend this IEP meeting?

My 14 year old son has Asperger’s syndrome and is a targeting of bullying in school. He has an IEP and it is documented that he has Asperger’s syndrome. My son also has a generalized anxiety disorder and mild depression. This has also been known to the school and the district. My son is quiet, shy, and passive. He has a history of being bullied and teased when he was in middle school. He is now a 9th grader and has been a target of teasing and bullying. My husband and I have been to his school about these issues and to the district office. Basically, we are given “lip service” by everyone and when school administrator do question other students about their behavior they lie and say that he started or that he was engaging in “horseplay” with them. My son has no history of behavior problems or agression. The problem is he is too passive and takes a lot and has difficulty with expressing and communicating what is going on with himself and to others what is happening to him emotionally. He is emotionally hurt by the teasing and bullying and it effects him. He has lots of headaches and stomaches when he has to go to certain classes at school. Because the school and higher administration has not taken this as serious as they should I decided to file a complaint with the Office of Civil Rights on behalf of my son. The allegation is his disability makes him a target of bullying and it is interferring with him receiving a free and appropriate education in school. I told the school that I have filed this complaint and now the school wants to hold a IEP meeting to address his bullying. My question is this- should I attend this meeting or should I hold because I filed the complaint and need to let the office of civil right check into the issue? I do not want to do anything that will mess up my complaint because I do believe this issue needs to be looked into and that it will send a strong message. This school has a reputation of having a “dismissive” attitude towards parents. I need some good advice in how I should proceed.

Jonjune answers:

Go to the meeting.
Listen for their solutions.
Take a tape recorder.
Many school districts now have a zero tolerance policy for bullying. Ask when they’re going to get one.
Suggest they assign your son to a student council kid or other volunteer organization to keep an eye out for him.
Better to get a solution as the Civil Rights Office is usually very slow.
Another solution is to attend school with him for a few days and let him point out who is bullying him to you. The school is not going to want to do that, so you may get some results.

Linda asks…

Gone completely Nuts from Psychotic Girlfriend?

I’ve been in a very nervous, emotional and stressful relationship with an extremely psychotic and obsessive girl my age, (now Im 24), for almost 3 years. When I met her she was a complete mess, extremely not good looking various history of abuse, suicide and prostitution. On the other hand she was completely obsessed with me, had her own place, strong already independent woman.
We had so much fun together as a couple, but with time I stared to realize that I am being in a position of a shrink, constantly assuring, dealing with her depression and the past, assuring of her looks, finally made her into a strong, independent woman who holds me by the claws. I tried to escape this madness but she always pulled me back, knowing my emotional side, every time I came back she figured my buttons and I became increasingly depressed. To make a story short, I am now a type 1 diabetic with severe generalized anxiety disorder and still cant get out of this mess. I know I wont get better with her.

Jonjune answers:

I’m almost the same, except my wife isn’t any better now. I’m on my way to a divorce. I suspect one day I might feel better about doing this.

Robert asks…

I can’t take this anymore please please help?

I have generalized anxiety disorder and panic attacks I was at the dr’s a little over a month ago and I was told “physically” I’m fine, that really made me happy b/c up until that point I had been convinced I had some horrible heart condition and was having heart attacks constantly. My dr gave me .25mg of Xanax to take whenever I need them every 8-12 hours. I felt really, really good for about 3 weeks and barely took the Xanax, now out of nowhere I have been taking them everyday and even after taking them I am still a little edgy and I’m back to thinking I’m about to die, and checking my pulse all lthe time and mentally scanning my whole body for any signs of a heart attack. I’m only 27 I’m not overweight and don’t have a family history of heart disease, but I can’t take this I don’t know why it’s happening to me and I just want it to stop. How do I get over this so I can live a normal life again? I have no appetite, and I get nervous leaving my house for fear I’ll have an attack.

Jonjune answers:

Oh boy do I know where you’re coming from, I do the same thing you do, the pulse, if I went somewhere new then I had to know where the nearest hospital was, not so much now, once in a blue moon maybe, I too used to have them every day, or right after another. Spontaneous panic attacks, I’ve been brought to the ER via ambulance more times than I can count, and nothing, I’m there for hours, one test after another, hooked up to a heart monitor, by the way I have to ask them to shut the sound the monitor off because it makes me panic just hearing my heart rate..I know..It’s a vicious circle, and sometimes by the time I got there I’ve already started feeling ok, my meds would kick in and the “flight or fight” feeling was gone. As far as telling yourself I’m not having a heart attack, I don’t’ know how long you’ll feel that way, your life will get back to normal, Don’t hide in the house, I did that for awhile too, then it went from being able to leave but staying very close to home and not staying anywhere overnight, home was my “protection” area, So once you start staying home, it gets worse, Try and get out, why your Dr. Put you on Xanax I’ll never know, I took that for years and years, then was weaned off and went onto clonipin.I take it when I wake up in the am and once again at 2 in the afternoon, they have become manageable, if I do get an attack I just take one right before I get in too deep , before that wave of fear goes from my toes and right over my head, please have the Dr. Take you off xanax, go to a support group if you need to, it’ll help.
A lot of people either don’t get this or they think we’re talking about being anxious, which is Very different!!
My mother had panic attacks, maybe you should see if any member of your family also suffers from this.
GL I hope this helped

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    Your Questions About Panic Attacks While Driving

    Thomas asks…

    What cause’s panic attacks?

    4years ago i started having panic attacks,while driving.Now I want drive at night alone.Why does this happen,and what would be good to help it?

    Jonjune answers:

    A panic attack can simply be the fright/flight instinct we are all born with. Something triggers the flight response even though there is no danger to be seen. Cognitive therapy works well for people with this type of condition. There is an excellent book called “Don’t Panic” by R. Reid Wilson. The book “I’m Ok, You’re Ok” by Dr. Thomas Harris is also a good book to check out. Some attacks are due to chemical imbalances in the brain and the best way to deal with those are to see a doctor and take prescribed medication (these are the attacks the really leave a person unable to function on a day-to-day basis). You can learn to deal with this, so hang in there!

    Charles asks…

    Help with panic attack, vision while driving?

    Lately I have been driving and I get some sort of panic attack and I started sweating at my hands, feet, and my vision feels weird. It feels like the road is going downwards, its hard to explain. I have been driving for 7 years and I am 24. Recently I just started having this problem. Its really affecting me and making me depressed because everytime I start to drive, after about 20 minutes, the road feels like its going downward and you get that feeling that your not there or a feeling that its not real.

    hard to explain sorry.
    Well what happen was that we were driving on Turnpike and while driving on turnpike we got a flat tire… That is the highway so we were in the fast lane and we moved all the way to the right lane… but we could not get into a side shoulder or pullover spot because they have cement borders on the sides due to construction… So we were stuck on the farthest right lane for like 10 minutes.. I was afraid a car would hit us and of course it was dangerous.. but luckily a road ranger came…

    Jonjune answers:

    Dear VinderGA,

    I believe you have a panic disorder. This unfortunately has nothing to do with how long you have been doing a thing.

    If you have repeated, persistent attacks or feel severe anxiety about having another attack, then you have Panic Disorder. Panic Disorder is strikingly different from other types of anxiety disorders in that panic attacks are often sudden and unprovoked.

    Panic disorder often can be successfully treated with therapy, particularly Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and/or anti-anxiety medication or antidepressants.

    You could also try a non-medication solution like Joe Barry’s One Move™ technique.

    Hope I helped?

    James asks…

    I think I had a panic attack while riding in the car with someone who was driving – how do I prevent it?

    It was night, and he was driving around a curve and I freaked out. I think I scared him – I know I scared him. I started breathing really fast and grabbing the seat. I was so scared – how do I prevent this from happening in the future?

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    Jonjune answers:

    I get this alot too. If it is an unsafe driver, I would drive that person the next time. Don’t let your self get over worked. Make sure you have your seat belt on and everything will be fine. If you tell your self that you will be fine and you beleive in in your gut instinct, you will be safe and sound.

    John asks…

    Panic Attacks and Driving?

    The last couple months ive had severe panic attacks, im on zoloft now and im on the road to recovery feeling alot better than i did, but i still fear driving. I dont know y but all these crazy thought get in my head when i drive like i cant breath enough and im far away from help and it turns into a panic attack and i freak out. how can i over come this? Has anyone else experienced this also, only while driving alone, im fine if im with someone.

    Jonjune answers:

    I wouldn’t mention that to the driver’s license renewal people if your license needs to be renewed while you are still concerned. They ask specifically about issues like that which could interfere with your ability to drive safely and could deny a license.

    Try practicing more local driving on roads in your neighborhood that are close to your home until you get your dosage optimized. Also see if you can volunteer for any local organizations that drive old people to supermarkets or doctor’s appointments so that you are on the road with someone else more often.

    Maria asks…

    Why my dog has panic attacks while riding in the car?

    I own a Shih tzu and he’s 6 years old. I notice that every time I take him along with me for a ride in the car, about 10 minutes later he starts breathing as if he’d ran 3 miles and is exhausted. His mouth gets spread wide open while his tongue hangs out as he pants at an accelerated pace, breathing really hard. He seems to have anxiety but he always wants to go for a ride. I just don’t understand, it’s not hot, and if it was I will have my air conditioner on while driving. Finally when we get back home he goes inside and lays prostrate on the floor or sideways. Any insight would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

    Jonjune answers:

    Hes just takin in the air, probably. Dogs like to taste and smell the air or the subject of interest.

    This is cause of the jacobs organ (pretty sure thats the name, at least)
    that dogs and cats have in the roofs of their mouths.

    He could have anxiety and like the thrill. Or, he could be misunderstanding u about the ride when u go to take him .

    Also, dogs have much higher of a heat sensitivity.
    U could feel like its room temp, and he could be sweatin all over.
    This is even true in air conditioner.

    Anyway, hes probably just super exciteable.

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      Your Questions About Anxiety Disorder Test

      Laura asks…

      How are mental illnesses like depression and general anxiety disorder diagnosed?

      Does a doctor just ask you questions or is there a specific test to see if you actually have any chemical imbalances in the brain?

      Jonjune answers:

      Standardized questions and symptoms.

      Nancy asks…

      Teenage anxiety psychological test?

      My school counselor suspects that I might have an anxiety disorder. She reccomended me to the school psychologist to “undergo some tests to see if I do, in fact, have a mild anxiety disorder“.

      What kins of tests are they going to do to me??? What are they looking for? I’m freaking out- I feel like a basket case- or some crazy person. What are they lokiung for, I mean, if something IS wrong with me- I want to kno- but I don’t want to be a crazy person!!!!

      please help me…

      btw- im in high school….

      Jonjune answers:

      An anxiety disorder certainly does not mean you are a crazy person, if that is really what you have. They will probably have you do a personality test, which is multiple choice and very easy. Just be completely honest and you will find out what is going on with you. They are looking to find out how you feel in different situations. It isn’t to be thought of as something wrong with you, it should be thought of as a disordered way of coping, a lack of coping mechanisms. It is much better to find out and get some help rather than to suffer anxiety needlessly.

      Lisa asks…

      How do I go about getting help for Social Anxiety Disorder?

      I never knew there was a name for my chronic shyness until Thursday this week. I have suffered all of my life (I’m 26) because of this. I have taken Lebowitz test my score was 105 which is severe Social anxiety. I am not able to get a job or go to school. I can’t make my daughter’s doctors appt., my sisters make most of my important phone calls, I experience the worst anxiety when meeting new people or ordering at restaurants. In high school my gpa suffered because I skipped class or found ways to be absent. My husband is a public speaker and I try to find ways to not attend his events. I hate to answer our phone. He doesn’t understand whats wrong with me but he loves me anyway. I NEED help! I know I need to make an appointment with the doctor, but how do I get the nerve? Am I eligible for SSI? My husband is pressuring me to get a job and I cant stomach the thought. I had to quit my last job as the pressure of interacting stressed me out. Depressed:( Please help! I’m at wit’s end:(
      I think it would be wise for me to seek a way to add to my family’s income. I am not an unfit parent in the least. To say so is very insensitive on your part. I have a very dedicated husband and my child is very well taken care of. there is no reason why i should not seek benefits if the government is willing to help while I seek the help I need.

      Thanks for your reply.

      fYI: The SSI is to help me and my family UNTIL I complete treatment.

      Jonjune answers:

      PHONE your doctor, make an appointment – force yourself to go. He will decide whether or not to put you on a course of antidepressants (for your depression) and others for your anxiety disorder. He will probably also suggest that you see a psychologist for therapy. Go and change your life – choose life!!
      Please be kind to yourself and visit:

      http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/generalized-anxiety-disorder/DS00502

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      You desperately need help.

      John asks…

      Could my anxiety disorder be a process of transformation ?

      Sometimes I think of it as a test to make me a stronger person, no matter how contrary I feel about it when facing a panic attack. I really feel that my heart inside is sore from all the panic attacks, like on the edge of explosion. Should I just embrace it ? (other causes have been ruled out by diagnosis and an echo test)

      Jonjune answers:

      According to the Dionysian mysteries; one can only free one’s mind if one’s mind is strong, and strength is gain through hardship.

      Take a short break from your regular life to meditate on it from an outside perspective and do something you really enjoy to come back with an enlightened zeal :D

      Though in it’s time this referred to the people on the bottom rungs of society (slaves, women, outcasts) I think this translates well into the complex and often stressful cultures of today.

      ~Peace~
      S.

      Linda asks…

      People who suffer from Anxiety disorder and depression?

      do you ever feel “light” as if you don’t have any energy in your body ?
      its not weakness, but something different.

      My legs and arms feel weak, sometimes heavy.

      I have been suffering from this since I had panic attack 4 months ago.

      I keep on saying to my doctor that maybe something neurologically is wrong with me but she keeps on saying its Anxiety.

      I had all heart tests and complete blood work including chemistry panel to check for deficiency and everything came out normal.

      Sometimes its like someone is pulling my body down and I will fall.

      Jonjune answers:

      What your feeling is anxiety.
      I have generalized anxiety disorder, and yep, that happens often.
      I know you may think something is wrong neurologically and such, but it most likely isn’t.
      I went in for test with my heart and cat scans and everything, but nothing was wrong. Just my anxiety.
      If it is affecting your everyday life, I suggest meds, or some way of coping.

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        Your Questions About Social Phobia World

        Nancy asks…

        How can I stop making my voice shake when I present?

        I always get so nervous when i’m about to present to a class, my heart beats so fast and my voice totally screws up.. what can i do? how can i make myself relaxed cuz i know it’s not the end of the world but i cant stop getting so nervous and is this a sign of social phobia or anxiety or whatever that disorder is called? share ur own experiences if u want… thanks
        oh and ppl plzzzzzzz do not say think ppl in their underwear i’ve heard that a million times and it’s silly cuz i dont think like that so therefore it doesnt work!

        Jonjune answers:

        It could be a form of mild social phobia and/or anxiety. If it only happens while you are making a presentation, it can be called “performance anxiety”. Talk to your doctor. Drugs called alpha-blockers and beta-blockers, designed for other conditions, actually are prescribed for this as well. They work quite well. There are also more potent drugs called benzodiazepenes that work well as well. They are highly addictive, so it would probably be prescribed for a very small prescription. I’ve used both with fantastic results. I used to sweat profusely and turn beet read if I even had a conversation with someone I was uncomfortable with. The great thing about these drugs is that they can be taken only if needed. Some people can overcome this without drugs, which is of course best. However, if you are like me, therapy didn’t work. Some people become comfortable if they make enough presentations. Not me! I think it is just the way I am “wired”. I have a hyperactive sympathetic nervous system!

        Richard asks…

        Why It seems like I am the only one with Social Anxiety Disorder???Is there anybody else with S.A.D?

        Why I feel like There is No One in This world have S.A.D???
        And If there’s then why I never met anyone with Social Phobia???
        Why I feel Like I HAVE HIV NOT S.A.D???
        Am I alone in this thing?????

        Jonjune answers:

        Of course your not alone in this, i too suffer this dibilitating disorder.
        Feels like your alone in it because suffering from this disorder means your unlikely to meet others, to socialize.
        This makes us withdrawn, solitary, lonely people.
        There are alot of others out there, but they are doing the same. The chance of two people with this disorder meeting up is highly unlikely due to the nature of it.

        Sandra asks…

        what is a spiritual philosophy/practice to help me feel peaceful?

        well to give you some info about me, I am agnostic and incapable of forcing myself to believe in a personal God/s (I’ve tried -_-). so a religion is not what I’m looking for.
        I’m depressed and diagnosed with social phobia and possibly have schizoid personality disorder, and I am looking for spiritual practices/philosophies to help me feel more at peace with myself and the world, and to feel more Human.
        suggestions?
        Thank you very much.

        Jonjune answers:

        Practice compassion and generosity. I find that shifting the focus off of me and unto others is centering. (and what the others said…. Meditation)

        Joseph asks…

        I’m a self proclaimed victim of social anxiety and I need your help?

        Yes, you.

        I’m sixteen years old and l haven’t been outside my house in about three months. Well, that’s a lie. I’ve gone out maybe seven times in the past two months, with my mother to the grocery store and
        then to the doctor for a physical, which was terrifying. I don’t need a doctor or therapist to tell me what I’m already sure of. I’m afraid of going outside because I’m doubtless that everyone is staring at me, judging me, and rejecting me. Now, I’m homeschooled so don’t freak. I’m in an online high school problem, supposed to be a junior, but I’ll be graduating around January. This anxiety problem is affecting my physical state as well as emotional. I’m alone all the time, despite a full house. I’m not getting the exercise my body deserves, and I don’t feel like I’m worthy of existence, or loved. I feel like my life is wasting before my eyes and I’m just taking up space in this world.

        I’ve done a lot of research on social phobia/anxiety and I have syptoms: including the emotional ones:

        Intense fear of being in situations in which you don’t know people

        Fear of situations in which you may be judged

        Worrying about embarrassing or humiliating yourself

        Fear that others will notice that you look anxious

        Anxiety that disrupts your daily routine, work, school or other activities

        Avoiding doing things or speaking to people out of fear of embarrassment

        Low self-esteem ( i’m married to this )

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        Trouble being assertive

        Negative self-talk

        Hypersensitivity to criticism

        Poor social skills ( due to not being in public school, but i’m too scared to go back)

        Avoiding situations where you might be the center of attention

        and the physical syptoms :

        Trembling or shaking ( when i’m in public )

        Difficulty talking (even at home, when explaining a movie or a book to my mother, i stutter a lot, forget my vocabulary, words seem miles away, eventually i’ll mentally curse myself and just stop talking)

        I hold conversations with myself when I’m alone. It started out in my bedroom, but now it happens whenever I’m alone, like in the kitchen or watching tv. I’ve created characters and I’ll talk to them, interact with them whenever I’m alone. It’s become a problem because my younger sister walked into the kitchen and heard me talking to myself, or my character. My bedroom is my sanctuary; but now that I share with a little sister, whenever she’s in it I know that I can’t talk to my characters so I’ll get all anxious and out of place and feel agitated and just want to get in that room and talk to myself but I can’t until she’s asleep, how much of a loser am I? Eventually mid sentence I’ll realize I’m talking to myself and get pissed about it but it’s routine, I can’t get over it.

        I’m very determined to get in shape. I’ve never been in sports or anything, although I always wanted to be a ballerina like my mother when I was younger. I want to go walking everyday, but I’m too scared to. I feel so depressed, ugly, and unhealthy because I don’t exercise. We moved down to arizona last year and I don’t even know what my neighborhood looks like unless my mother is driving through it. If my sister were to get lost or my mother asked me to pick up her from a friend’s house I wouldn’t know where to go, mind you we’ve been down here since may of last year, that’s bad.

        My mother called and asked from work to go check on my younger brother while he was at the park a few yards from our house, not even that it’s like right fu.ck.ing there maybe four houses down. She told me to call as soon as I got back to let her know he was there. I told her I would, got dress, went to the door, paced around and eventually ending up waiting five minutes in the living room before calling her to say he was there, not knowing if he was or not. Mind you my little brother is nine. For all I knew he could have been at the park, covered in blood, dying from a bullet wound and it would have been all my fault because I didn’t go check on him. So I’m waiting around, biting my lips and just feeling very empty and he finally walks in like 20 mins later; my mother never found out about this.
        So yeah this is ruining my life. My mother isn’t oblivious that I won’t go outside. She just assumes I’m being a bum and am mad at her for moving us all the way down to arizona from michigan, which I’m not because I was the same there, but whatever.

        I’ve always been a shy child, but I was active and had friends as a kid, I had fun went to the zoo, did things with my family, I’ve never been emotionally or physically abused as a child/teen. I’m fine, I have caring parents, siblings, etc. So I know it’s something I’ve “developed”
        I’m going to college there’s no doubt about it. I refuse to screw that up. But I’m afraid I’ll end up an outcast later on in life, a loner, I won’t ever find love or friends or a man or have children. I’m scared to get older and reflect on my teen years because there’s nothing to think about other than the hours spent at home, talking to myself in my room. And what if my children ask about my teen years, what the hell am I supposed to say to them?

        What can I do to reverse this, and seriously put myself out there, out of anxiety? I beg your help.

        Jonjune answers:

        Wow, okay.. Answer 1, so much for being helpful. Get the fuck off of Yahoo answers, troll!

        And I’m so sorry you have to go through this shit.. First, please just consider yourself lucky that you’re being homeschooled, are graduating next year, going to a college, do not have to suffer the daily horrors of high school, and are not bullied.
        High school is like hell.. Yes, there is much bullying and teasing and looks are almost everything.
        And so what if you’re ugly? Please, please, please, please know that you’re just 1 out of a million kids and NOBODY is staring at you!!
        There is so much in this world that you’re missing out on from secluding yourself. Go out into the city and college and I can garuantee you WILL make friends, you are NOT an outcast, and you can find love. Nobody is really ugly, it’s just perception. “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.”

        I don’t think this helped much and I really wish I could come to Arizona and drag you out of there. Perhaps you should meet some people on the internet first.. Discover a hobby and meet those who share your hobby. Start with the internet and practice your social skills.

        Steven asks…

        How much would Social Anxiety therapy cost?

        So basically, I have social phobia, and although I’ve not been offically diagnosed with it by a doctor (I’ve not seen one about it) It’s more or less obvious that I have it, and I fit a lot of the symptoms and behaviours/thoughts. Anyhow, right now, I feel so miserable in life. There’s my few good friends that I have, but they are all from different groups you see, so it’s not like we’re all one big group of friends. Therefore I do enjoy spending time with all of them, but even then I’m so cut off from them, and only really talk to them in school or over msn or ps3 or w/e, and only my best friend I actually do anything most friends do, like meeting up outside of school, going places, etc. And although do talk to more people than just who I call my “main friends”, I can’t really classify them as my friends because I don’t know much about them, and never talk to them outside of the one class or w/e that I’m in with them. Whereas most people are friends with tons of people including those from outside of school, and are able to make friends much more easily than me. If I’m given an oppertunity to make friends, I just can’t take it because I’m too caught up in this phobia to even start a conversation with someone beside me which would be a perfect oppertunity to practice and get to know more people better. x[ What’s more is I’ve built up an image of being the quiet guy who never talks, and consequently, although certain people do try to be friendly, which often results in my nervous one word replies, most people would avoid doing so, or even wanting to I guess.

        And so far, I’ve survived the first four years of high school, and I do think there are some signs of it improving. I was able to make good friends with another guy who was only in my PE class last year, but then again, he did put a lot of effort into being friendly with me in the first few weeks, but aside from that it just came naturally to me, whereas other people I’m a lot more shut off to and some people it takes me at least half a year of sitting beside them to even start to have proper convos with. But obviously, I’m getting to the age where you’re expected to have wider social circles, you’re expected to mingle with new folk and as I’ll be finishing high school in less than two years time, and heading off to university, I really, really need to fix my problem now, or else I’m just going to die once I get out in the big world on my own, and obviously university will be the next oppertunity where there’s a whole big brand new group of people who are all on the same boat as you and dont know anyone, so if I can have my phobia cured, then the image I have just now in high school will not follow me through to university and the rest of my life.

        So yeah, sorry for the blabber, but does anyone have any rough idea of how much therapy to cure it would cost? Or what it involves? I know for a fact I need some guidance and someone to set me goals and tell me exactly what I need to do to have any chance of overcoming it.
        Well idk. I don’t see how it could be anything else, because I know for a fact that I’m not just shy, and you only need to compare me to my sisters to see the big difference in social skills, and they are generally quite shy too, but are still very popular and are able to make friends and socialize easily.

        And well I live in the UK, so I think it might be free on the NHS. But I’m not sure.

        Jonjune answers:

        Well the cost of therapy would depend on where you live. It could be 70.00 an hour, probably more in most places. It would be wrong to label yourself and possibly project an issue on you that you don’t have. Overcomesocialanxietydisorder.com, socialanxietysupport.com, are some sites that might help you, assuming that is your problem. Watch tv or movies and see how the characters interact with each other. Watch how your family, church members, people around town interact with each other. Practice, it is all about practice. Practice with family or friends, like if you went to a dance and asked someone to dance, practice what would happen if they said yes, practice what would happen if they said no. We all fear rejection, we all are afraid of saying something stupid, but if that happens, just laugh it off and move on. Everyone who reads aloud in church goofs a word, even the Pastor, we all know how that feels, but you laugh and keep moving forward. It is like the quote….”Be who you are and say what you feel ‘cause people who mind don’t matter, and people who matter don’t mind.” Dr. Seuss. Go to polls and surveys and answer questions so you get good at answering random questions. Write down questions that are fun and interesting to you. Y/A has an entertainment section with categories like jokes and riddles and polls and surveys. It is always good to have a good joke, so copy them down so you don’t forget the punch line. Polls and surveys has a lot of good questions and they change all the time, so it is a good source for questions to ask when the conversations stall.
        Where’s the last place you would want to be seen?
        What scares you the most?
        Scariest/weirdest dream you ever had?
        If you could reverse time, what would you do differently?
        What’s going through your mind right now?
        Tell me something fun about yourself?
        What’s the best dream you ever had?
        Do you ever get a song stuck in your head? What song?
        How has the recession affected you, your family?
        Tell me about a personal experience in your life?
        How many countries have you been to? What was your favorite one?
        When have you felt the most lost?
        What is the most expensive/strangest thing you ever bought?
        Where’s the strangest place you ever fell asleep?
        What is the longest amount of time you ever stayed awake, and for what reason?
        Have you ever done anything on a dare?
        Have you ever walked into the wrong public restroom?
        If you could teach the world to sing, what song would you choose?
        If you were born the opposite sex, what would you have been named?
        What gift do you wish you had been born with?
        What’s an assumption people make about you, that couldn’t be more wrong?
        What’s the one thing you would like to do that would shock your friends and family?
        If you could be any character in a movie, who would you be?
        What has disappointed you most in life?
        If it wasn’t for modern medical intervention, would you still be alive today?
        What is something you misplaced and never found?
        What types of questions do you think people from different decades/eras would have asked if they had Yahoo Answers back then?

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          Your Questions About Generalised Anxiety Disorder Gad

          Mark asks…

          i have a very bad generalized anxiety disorder and chew my nails to the obsessive point?

          I have gad (generalized anxiety disorder ) and agoraphobia…I have obsessive compulsive behavior and have asthma…other then that im pretty good ;) anyways part of my disorder is I chew my nails till they bleed and look terrible, how can I stop doing this it is so compulsive…I am on 3 mental medications and was in the psych ward for 3 months…anyways any help would be so awesome!!!
          plz help me find peace…its so tough living with this…I cant even concentrate on life its so sad!

          Jonjune answers:

          Sounds obsessive compulsive nail biting… Ask the psychiatrist for a psychologist that knows cognitive therapy…

          Richard asks…

          antidepressant/ type 1 diabetes/ Generalised anxiety disorder related question..?

          Ok, in short….
          I am 18 years old, I have had Type 1 Diabetes for almost 5 years, GAD (Generalised Anxiety Disorder) for just over 2 years, Stomach and abdo pain/problems for just over 2 years.

          7 months ago i was prescribed the SSRI antidepressant Paroxetine (10mg), this was changed to 20mg 3 months later as it did absolutely nothing for me except give bad side effects i.e. insomnia, nightmares, made me irritable…. Same thing happened on 20mg, so I decided to come off it. Easier said than done, Paroxetine withdrawal is complete hell – for 2 weeks solid i was dizzy/nauseous, couldnt even walk straight. It made me flip out over the smallest of things and i couldnt really eat.
          i was then prescribed 30mg Mirtazapine (was on this drug for 30 days as didnt see much of a result)
          well one month later im back on 30g Mirtazapine as i was left feeling more depressed/ uncontrollably sad, anxious and having panic attacks every single day. I have been taking this for 5 days now but ive been having nightmares and feeling very nauseous in the mornings/having panic attacks as i feel like i cant cope with what the day brings (full time education – Business & IT Alevels)

          Was wondering if anyone has / had the same problems and could give me any tips?

          Blood glucose levels have been high for a few months (around 17-24mmol/l), very difficult to lower them even with extra insulin.. have caused stomach problems to be worse and makes my body ache all over. I am seeing specialised doctors/nurses/dieticians and they are slowly getting back down (8-11mmol/l)

          Note: Still having panic attacks everyday – feel more intense and more often now ive started 30mg Mirtazapine again.

          Jonjune answers:

          Gradually stop all antidepressants, using valium for after effects

          Linda asks…

          Can dehydration contribute to an anxiety disorder?

          I’ve been diagnosed with GAD (generalized anxiety disorder) for many years. I keep it under control as much as possible without meds. I eat right and exercise at the gym daily but sometimes I feel on edge with anxiety especially if I don’t drink enough water. It there a relationship with anxiety and the lack of water in your system?

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          Jonjune answers:

          Thats entirely possible but lack of sleep and stimulants (such as caffeine) are the major culprits.

          Maria asks…

          How long before zoloft starts to work for anxiety?

          I was prescribed zoloft 25mg for my GAD(generalized anxiety disorder) And elavil 75mg at night to help me sleep. I took the elavil last night and I am going to take it agin this evening. Then take the zoloft in the morning. I tried this a couple of days ago and an hour after i took the zoloft I felt super nervous and jumpy. I was wondering if that wears off, or should I expect that 2morw when I take it again??

          Jonjune answers:

          I don’t know, but my Paxil took, or I was told, could take two to six weeks to work. Thus, you should ask your doctor and tell him/her about that reaction.

          David asks…

          Should I tell people that I have Generalized Anxiety Disorder?

          I’m fourteen and a half and the truth is I don’t know whether I should tell people that I have GAD (Generalized Anxiety Disorder). See, I am constantly afraid of everything, I can barely sleep, I get headaches, muscle pains and a whole other list of painful symptms. My mother refuses to believe that there is a problem, as per usual, and my dad is the only one who actually cares.

          But should I tell people so that they understand not to push me, but can I risk them using it against me? I don’t know. If I start trembling in class then no one will understand and then it’ll be really arkward. There have been a few times where this nearly happened, but I managed to make it not obvious.

          But who thinks that I should risk being bullied beyond control, and who thinks that I need to tell people the truth so that if I have an anxiety attack where I can’t stop shaking then my teachers know what’s going on?

          Jonjune answers:

          GAD is VERY common and not something that you should be afraidof. What you tell people about your mental “status” is your bbusinessnot tther’res… I have been living with bipolar for 4 years now and not everyone in my fam knows and most of my “friends” have no clue lol your priorities should be set on getting your GAD under control so that it doesn’t run your life! I hope that helped!?

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            Your Questions About Panic Attacks Causes

            Daniel asks…

            Spinal tap showed elevated WBC’s, but never found out the cause. Can stress or panic attacks cause this?

            I had the spinal tap because I was brought to the ER with sudden headache, dizziness, and feelings like I was going to pass out. In the weeks following, I had these episodes numerous times and I was eventually diagnosed with panic attacks. The thing that bugs me is the reason for the increased WBC’s in my CSF was never determined. Wondering if the panic attack/stress could have caused this.

            Jonjune answers:

            I wish I could have an anwser for you, I just had a spinal tap done last night. I myself am trying to find more information about the symptoms I will be experiencing over the next few days. I’m not so sure that stress or your panic attack would have an impact on your situation. I myself, last night, was very stressed and they had a difficult time getting my pulse rate down. However, I’m not a doctor, so I strongly urge you to contact your physican to see what’s going on. Hope everything turns out ok for you!!!

            Steven asks…

            What causes the severe burning sensation in my stomach when I’m stressed, depressed, or having panic attacks?

            The burning is located right at the very top of my stomach just below the sternum and when the burning intensifies, it causes my back to ache and/or burn in the middle of my back on both sides where the bra strap is. The burning in my stomach often becomes so severe that I feel like it’s going to tear. What is this caused from.

            *NOTE* It ONLY happens when I stress/worry excessively/or am depressed or experience panic attacks

            Jonjune answers:

            You may have an ulcer or acid reflex problem. Try Zantac 150 when it happens. If that helps, then you need to see a gastronologist.

            Mandy asks…

            What causes people to have panic attacks?

            Is this something that can be overcome?
            Is there an underlying cause that is more serious?
            Thanks for all of the input. I’m dating someone who suffers from panic attacks. I just wanted to understand where he is coming from.

            Jonjune answers:

            Basically panic attacks are caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain that causes the level of serotonin to be out of balance. What causes this to happen can be several things, though most researchers believe there is a definite genetic component involved. Attacks are usually triggered by an event, sometimes trauma, but at times it can be something so obscure that you feel they have come out of the blue.

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            Panic itself is normal and is our survival response to danger, often referred to as the fight or flight reaction. The difference is for people who have panic disorder, there is no apparent danger, but our bodies respond as if there were. We become even more confused when we do not see a danger and begin to assign danger to places or events that are in no way related.

            Panic cannot be cured, once you have had panic disorder or anxiety or depression, you will probably always carry a possibility of a recurrence. The symptoms can be managed by medication and you can learn to change your response to the panic itself through therapy or, in some cases, self help so that you do not have to continue indefinitely on medication, though some people do.

            The best book to learn about and manage panic disorder is The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook by Dr. Edmund Bourne.

            Maria asks…

            Does anxiety and panic attacks cause faded memory ?

            I suffer from panic and anxiety attacks, and im barely out the house now and i notice that i have lost alot of interest in stuff and just dont care anymore.

            Jonjune answers:

            My opinion would be yes. I have an anxiety disorder and I suffer from them attacks. I think they do cause some faded memory because that’s what happened to me. If you haven’t, check in with your doctor. Meds helped for me!

            Linda asks…

            What Causes Panic Attacks?

            I have a question about after panic attacks somewhere on here but i forgot to ask what triggers them lol sorry!

            Jonjune answers:

            Your crazy mind

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              Lizzie asks…

              Does anxiety medicine help all kinds of anxiety disorders?

              I need to know if anxiety medicine helps all kinds of anxiety disorders. My doctor is about to order me some… But i feel so bad. I have all symptoms of every anxiety there is excpet the phobias. Especially guilt over my past. I am 15 and am seriously doubting medicine could ever help me. He is also putting me in counseling which I am worried about. What will they ask me? what if I break down in tears and cant speak? This will happen I know but I just dont know. Any advice?? All advice will help me!

              Jonjune answers:

              First of all you took a major step by getting help, that takes courage. You have already taken the first step in the right direction. I don’t know what meds that you will be taking but if they don’t work there are other meds that you could try that may help. I’m so glad that you are going to therapy because meds alone may only mask the problem but doesn’t get to the root of the problem. I recommend you read the book, Hope and Help for your Nerves by Dr.Claire Weekes. Don’t worry, you’ll get better.

              Thomas asks…

              What is the Difference Between Paranoia and Anxiety Disorders?

              I guess what I really want to know is if paranoia is a type of an anxiety disorder/part of an anxiety disorder, or are the two seperate things?
              Are they a part of the same disorder?

              Or are they two completely seperate disorders that just happen to have similar symptoms?

              Jonjune answers:

              They are 2 separate disorders. Paranoia is the when you think someone or something is trying to do you harm or make you fail. This is all in the mind.

              Anxiety is a disorder involving chemicals in the mind which sends adrenaline surges from your adrenal glands. Anxiety is treated as a mental disorder even though it involves actually bodily functions. That is why when someone first starts having anxiety or panic attacks the doctor wants you to have a blood test to check on how your hormones are functioning, especially the thyroid hormone.

              Sandra asks…

              is xanax good for long term use of anxiety disorders or would something else be less addicitve?

              I have been perscribed .50 millagrams of xanax to use as needed for my panic disorder… I am taking 60 millagrams of prozac for OCD and major depression… I am wondering if xanax is okay for long term use or if there is another less addictive drug for anxiety disorders

              Jonjune answers:

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              Xanax can be addictive. There are different meds that work well with others. I would check with your doctor to see what your options are. Good Luck.

              David asks…

              What can be done for my anxiety and panic disorders?

              I have anxiety disorder. I am constantly clenching my jaw and also my hands are always in fists and never relaxed.
              I also panic if I am getting ready to go somewhere I will start sweating and I get sick to my stomach. Like a panic attack.

              My mother says to see a doctor about it.
              I don’t really understand what the doctor could do for me?
              Has anyone had similar problems and gone to the doctor? What was the end result?

              Jonjune answers:

              Yes, I have had anxiety/panic attacks for many years and you are describing it to a T the clenched fists and jaws, tummy hurts, but in addition to that, I sweat and feel confused.   It’s very unpleasant when you go someplace and one of these panic attacks occurs.  Right now, I am on prescribed withdrawal from an addictive drug to treat panic/anxiety. I tried to cold turkey it.  Wrong thing to do!  I felt like a puppet on a string, my arms, legs, and head were involuntarily jerking and I had no control.  My hands were like “grasshoppers” in a frying pan.  Instead of cold turkey, I should have seen my Dr. About how to quit the addiction.  The side effects were really getting to me, the blurry, tremor getting worse in the afternoon.  I do understand and sympathize very much about what you are going through. You do need to see a Dr. About your condition. If you do have to take meds, ask about the non addictive kind. The addictive Alprazolam, got me in a whole lot of trouble, physically and mentally.

              Very best wishes for feeling better soon.

              Lisa asks…

              Where can I find a research study on anxiety disorders?

              I need to write a research essay on anxiety disorder for psychology class. And for information I need a research study done on anxiety disorders in pdf form.

              Jonjune answers:

              Also look at the small black word ‘studies’:

              http://www.google.co.uk/search?hl=en&biw=1259&bih=795&q=studies+anxiety+disorders&aq=f&aqi=g-v1g-m1g-b2&aql=&oq=

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                Your Questions About Social Phobia Test

                Betty asks…

                Depersonalization and derealization are symtops of?

                I have a test but very confused with the right answer… because of the choices…please help…

                a.OCD
                b.Specific phobia
                c.social disorder
                d.panic disorder

                my best bet is A… but uncertain….

                Jonjune answers:

                Sorry, but I’m not going to give you the answer to your test question. I will, however, help you find it for yourself… I think that’s fair enough. So here are 4 links… Each will give you information about your 4 choices. Read over them and you will find your answer… Good luck on the test! Oh yeah, you will need to fully understand the meaning of ‘depersonalization’ and ‘derealization’ in order to find the answer as those exact words may not be used.

                Http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/obsessive-compulsive-disorder-ocd/index.shtml

                http://www.adaa.org/GettingHelp/AnxietyDisorders/SpecificPhobia.asp

                http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/social-anxiety-disorder/DS00595/DSECTION=2

                http://psychcentral.com/disorders/sx28.htm

                Joseph asks…

                Speech?what can i use as a conclusion?

                Oh and would what you change in my speech , thanks! :)

                What would you do if I threw a hairy spider down your shirt? Or left you in the darkness alone? What would you do if you had to perform in front of millions of people or was locked in a room with hundreds of clowns ? How would you react? Shriek? Panic? Or even collapse? Imagine your worst fear. Is it painful to think of? Does it make you want to run away? Hello and good morning fellow peers, that is not just a fear. It is much more powerful than that. It is a phobia.

                What exactly is a phobia you may ask? According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary a phobia is “an exaggerated usually inexplicable and illogical fear of an object or situation”. Phobias are not normal fears like failing a test or losing your cell phone. If you have a phobia you will be scared every time you see or feel it. Some symptoms related to phobias include dizziness, fear of dying, nausea, hyperventilating, and similar symptoms during a panic attack. These people will do everything possible to avoid their phobia which can interfere with living a normal happy life. And in fact, more people in America have phobias than cancer.

                The 3 most common phobias are:

                Arachnophobia: fear of spiders. Even among harmless spiders, there is still a strong fear just by its presence.

                Social Phobia: fear of social situations and interactions. A person with social phobia will have tremendous anxiety with meeting strangers and speaking in front of a crowd.

                Claustrophobia- a fear of being inside small confined spaces like elevators, stairwells, cars, washrooms, busses, airplanes, closets, and any other small closed in spaces.

                The most uncommon phobias are:

                Cathisophobia- Fear of sitting.
                Chaetophobia- Fear of hair.
                Gatophobia- Fear of cats.
                Linonophobia- Fear of string.
                Octophobia – Fear of the number 8.
                Optophobia- Fear of opening one’s eyes.
                Cacomorphobia- fear of obese people
                Hippopotomonstrosesquipedaliophobia- fear of long words
                Coulrophobia- fear of clowns
                Pediophobia – fear of children
                Anemophobia- fear of air
                Chronomentrophobia- fear of clocks
                Bambakophobia- fear of cotton balls
                Phobophobia- phobia of phobias

                And the list goes on………….

                Jonjune answers:

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                The problem is that isn’t really a speech at all. It’s really just a list. There are different kinds of speeches and I think you mean to do an informative speech, but every speech follows an outline. You have to have an introduction, a body, and a conclusion, just like an essay. A good way to think of the different parts is: in the introduction you tell the audience what you are going to tell them in your speech, in the body of the speech you actually tell the audience, and in the conclusion you tell them what you told them in the speech. The introduction gets the audience ready to listen, then they listen, and then the conclusion reminds them what they heard.

                In the introduction you can ask a question if you want to to get things started, but then you have to give a preview of your points. For example: Today I am going to tell you what a phobia is, what the most common kinds of phobias are, and what are some really odd uncommon phobias.

                Then in the body of the speech you talk about those things. A phobia is… The most common kinds of phobias are… Some really interesting uncommon phobias are…

                Then in the conclusion you have to remind the audience. Today I told you what a phobia is, what the most common kinds of phobias are, and what are some really odd uncommon phobias. You can tie back to the question you asked in the beginning if you want.

                Sandy asks…

                Call someone with questions about Anxiety?

                Is there a number i can call to talk to someone who can tell me if i suffer from GAD or social anxiety or social phobia or something? I don’t want to go somewhere, because my parents will freak out, I’m 15. And i don’t trust online tests…

                Jonjune answers:

                Good grief, your parents no doubt want what’s best for you, make an appointment with your family doctor, he can give you some idea of what is going on with you.

                George asks…

                I HATE working…but is it because of mental/emotional or am I just lazy?

                I HATE working. Mainly because I have a social phobia, now receiving treatment for major depression, and scheduled to be tested for ADD. I’m really worried because I’m 27, can’t keep a job, and my money is getting tighter. I need advice is it just laziness or is it mental/emotional??

                Jonjune answers:

                I don’t think there is a person who ever ENJOYED working. However, most people are content with their jobs. Maybe you should get a job where there aren’t a lot of people/ customers. I worked at a drycleaner’s once and it wasn’t very busy and I had a lot of down time so I could relax half the time I was there. I used to think I had ADD/ADHD and social phobia..all kinds of crazyness, but recently found all I really have is slightly more self awareness than most people. I am also really hyper, a lot. I think you should try to find a job where you feel comfortable.

                Daniel asks…

                I’m very upset cause I have been diagnosed?

                I have had some health tests done all last week, first I was diagnosed with a bad case of an underactive thyroid. then I was diagnosed TMJ issues, Then social phobia, now I just came back from an eye test and apparently my vision is terrible in my right right and I need to wear glasses full time and I am going to have laser eye surgery soon, And to top it all off I have a hugee scar on my head from where a 50inch tv feel on my head and I have to get it removed.

                I feel very very stressed, everything in my life is going wrong. I feel like crying. why is this happening to me, I found out all of this in one week. whats next? :(
                and I’ve only just turned 17.

                Jonjune answers:

                First ask god to guide you to his straight path. Say “oh god guide me to what pleases you, guide me to the truth”. Why does this matter? Those who posses the light of god can not be shaken. What ever calamity might afflict them they know that this is the will of god and they accept it. Because they know that life as we see it is fake. The real life is after death. This life is a test from god. Remember; whether you think you’re being tested or punished, you are right.

                P.S. Social phobia is a fake disease. If you don’t like people dont mean youre scared of them. I dont like most people. I never go to any type of gatherings.

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                  Chris asks…

                  mental health and the military?

                  I heard that if you have a history of hospitalization and mental health issues you cannot join the military. is that true? I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder and generalized anxiety disorder. because of these disorders, I missed a few months of school. I was hospitalized twice for a couple of days and went to an intensive outpatient program for a while. this all happened in a little less than a 6 month period. will I still be rejected? I am doing better now and moving forward with my life. joining the military is really the main reason why I haven’t dropped out of school and it is pushing me to go to college. should I give up on the option of enlisting or is there any hope still there?
                  does it make any difference if i join in the health care field?

                  Jonjune answers:

                  What I will tell you is that desertviking is right. But if you really want it you should speak to a recruiter of whatever perspective branch you are interested in. I am not trying to give you false hope. All I am saying is purse what you want and whatever happens, happens. I will also tell you I had a personal friend while in service who lied about his psychological condition and he felt it would never be found out because somehow the records had gone missing. He when to Afghanistan and developed PTSD which trigger severe schizophrenia in him. He was discharged and now is psychological worse off than he was before. My point sharing that story is to tell you don’t lie about it with any recruiter. Besides what might happen to you legally you may suffer lasting effects that you cannot foresee now. Don’t be tempted to lie and just deal with the reality.

                  Mandy asks…

                  Would my cousin be disqualified from joining the military? Or be exempt from being drafted as well?

                  He has been diagnosed with, treated and medicated for asthma since the age of 2. Also, he has been diagnosed with and treated for the following psychiatric/neurologic impairments since the age of 17: ADHD–inattentive type; OCD, Tourette’s; Asperger Syndrome; generalized anxiety disorder, panic disorder; major depression–severe, without psychotic features, with recurrent episodes; insomnia due to psychiatric impairments, and has a documented history of 4 seizures in his lifetime (requiring medical attention). He has had a skull fracture at the age of 6. He has had two involuntary psych commitments (one lasting 72 hours), and one in which he had been released early (after 24 hours). No actual arrests, but a notice to appear (arraignment) in which he plead “no contest” to misdemeanor version of “criminal threats” and had probation. He has received SSDI/SSDI for psych/neuro benefits since age 21 and still qualifies today, and takes 3 asthma meds daily, 6-7 psych/neuro medications daily.

                  Would this 32-year-old man: 1) be disqualified from joining the military? and 2) be exempted from be drafted (even if they increased the age requirements)?

                  Jonjune answers:

                  There is no more draft. It’s been an “all-volunteer” military for a long time. Strangely, I believe you still have to *register* for the draft, but there is no more draft. Why require the registration if there isn’t a draft? Can’t say. Possibly leaving the administrative door open to allow a draft, if someone should think it could be necessary.

                  At 32, he has a chance to join the military. But his joining is subject to passing a medical exam. With the list of conditions your cousin has, I’d say that the military has ample pool to draw from without him. But that’s a call the medical folks in the military will have to make. … Good luck!

                  William asks…

                  Ladies: What’s with my dad and brother?

                  Ladies: What’s with my dad and brother?
                  I have generalized anxiety disorder/add/ocd, and I don’t take to disrespect very well, and in public I would confront people if I felt they looked at me the wrong way or not.

                  Well after growing up with my dad getting moody in public, and embarrassing me as a kid, he’s telling me at my age of 27 that even though I have what I have, “it’s getting old”

                  THis frustrates the living hell out of me, because i learned when I got psychiatric testing to find what it was I had that my mother reported that she smoked when she was pregnant with me and my father has a history of depression. I don’t want to have kids because I don’t want them to have anxiety like me. I have a good personality and am well liked, but out in the city, I get bothered by how rude people are and I tend to react.

                  So my brother gets aggrevated with me, and I laughed how a girl almost held his hand by accident then he mouthed something like “Yeah, and you still said something to her”…..

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                  brother and father want me to be better, or are they chastising me for something that’s out of my control.

                  For years my father has told me I got it from him but my brother’s opposite, he’s much more passive and while I am reserved I tend to think people are looking at me the wrong way when they’re not.

                  Why the guilt trip? I’m taking the initiative to improve my feelings, by seeing someone and taking meds regularly to balance me out, and want to start working out, keep active….

                  This bothers me since i was with my brother last night and saw another thing that bothers me……everyone with a gf. While im alone………
                  Deb, I know you’re trying to help, but you honestly make it sound like im a monster.

                  Women don’t like disrespect either. Why should anyone? What happened to standing up for yourself? Im confused why men aren;’t allowed to do it without being looked at like they have issues?
                  BTW, im not a monster. I already do have lots to offer. You kind of sound subtly selling me short.

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                  If you are, you’re entitled to your opinion. Is this what you’re doing?
                  Sash, I am not blaming anyone. You are completely out of line! First off, I’m frustrated with my parents because me having the anxiety I have has cost me relationships with people. It is hard out there and ignorant people like yourself fear what you don’t understand.

                  You sound beyond cruel and I’ll tell you something right now! I love my brother and family very much and you can go to hell.
                  Sass, I’m sorry, but why is it ok for women to stand up for themselves, but when men do it they’re nuts?

                  You are very wrong to judge me. You don’t mean to sound cruel? Only what ,tactless? Rude? Judgemental?

                  You’re all three of those and I will report you if you don’t apologize for something you know is wrong.

                  I am who I am, and I’ve taken significant strides to help myself, but do NOT treat me like im a monster, because I am not.

                  I’m writing this high on emotion, because you called me out and I don’t appreciate it. You are ignorant and pompous. If you want to talk about this more, I will be much more civil and approachable to listen to what you have to say.

                  I do blame you for ruining my night by putting bullshit into my head.

                  Jonjune answers:

                  Hi!

                  I think that you should take up a hobby of journalism! I started to read your question and could not stop reading. I think u might have an hidden talent that u are not aware of.

                  I often found out that if u keep a journal or a daily routine of writing your feeling in a book or binder and later looking at them helps improve things. U seem to have a lot on your mind and sounds like you can def. Let it out.

                  I always think when family is talking to u, its to help you. Not hurt or harm u in any way. Often there help can be taken the wrong way and out defenses naturally rise. I think u should just take a day off and relax. NO tv, radio, kids, family. Just serenity. One day like this every month can relax you.

                  TAKE IT EASY!

                  Steven asks…

                  How to get over an abusive boyfriend?

                  on tuesday, my boyfriend and i broke up. we had been dating for almost 9 months. for the past… i guess six months, he had been verbally and mentally abusive towards me. i ignored it, because i loved him. i still love him. he would tell me that i was crazy and needed mental help (i have generalized anxiety disorder and obsessive compulsive disorder), that i was a shitty girlfriend and a horrible person, that he wanted to punch me in the face, that i was worse than all of his other girlfriends, got angry when i slept, ate, or visited with my parents or best friend of 16 years, refused to talk to me when i was on vacation, asked for a “break” so he could go mess around with his friend, told me i ruined his life and made him suicidal, accused me of cheating (when he has a known history of cheating, and i’ve heard he has cheated on me), has pictures of him and the girl he supposedly cheated with as his facebook display picture when he knows i hate her, told me how pretty other girls were/sent me pictures of nude girls, etc. basically it just escalated more and more. when i got blonde highlights (i’m naturally blonde) he told me i looked fake. but when the girl he supposedly cheated on got highlights/dyed her hair blonde (naturally has dark brown hair), he told me how beautiful she looked.

                  anyway, he finally dumped me because i refused to talk to him while he was involved in a money laundering paypal scam. he’s repeatedly begged for me back, but i told him he had to prove to me that he’d treat me better (i’ve given him tons of chances). he refuses to spend any time trying to get me back, tells me i’m not worth the time. that either i come back or i don’t. i can’t go back to him, but it’s so hard to say no when i’m so upset and hurt and lonely. i miss him so badly. he was the BEST boyfriend the first few months… i miss that guy. i don’t know what to do… i’m only 17 and don’t feel like i can trust any guys ever again. i’ve gotten really shy again and don’t feel good about myself. i feel so guilty for messing things up with him. can anyone give me some advice about getting over him? please?

                  Jonjune answers:

                  How the hell could you NOT get over him after all that. Wake the fuck up and smell the shit- cause you were in it. It should be hard to get over an ass hole like that.

                  Jenny asks…

                  What does this sound like?

                  I’ve been diagnosed with major depression and a generalized anxiety disorder. I went off my meds cold turkey after 6-8 months.
                  Now I’ve been having similar symptoms but it doesn’t feel quite the same as before…
                  The symptoms are:
                  frequent anxiety attacks, full blown panic attacks, rage episodes(my memory blocks out alot of it though), occasional cutting, periods of barely eating or sleeping and feeling very irritable but wired during these times, then other times I always sleep and am tired and I cry and get upset easily. I’ve also had some suicidal thoughts.
                  I hate being like this. I’m going for a psychiatric evaluation again tomorrow but I’m scared. I don’t know what I could or should expect. Does anybody know what my possible results might be? I have a family history of a variety of mental illness.

                  Jonjune answers:

                  It sounds like you have a lot going on. The person doing the evaluation will probably want to know why you stopped taking the medication. I am glad you are taking care of yourself and going back for help. Good Luck tomorrow. I should say today. By the time you get this it will be today.

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                    Your Questions About Title Max

                    Sharon asks…

                    i am now two days late on my payments to title max can i still make my payment?

                    my bill was due on the 17th of march today is the 19th i have the money for my monthly bill will they take it or jus repo my car

                    Jonjune answers:

                    Pay it-they will not repo your car for being a few days late. I make my car payment on-line. Try that. The car loans I have have a due date and if you pay 10days after that date they charge you a late charge.

                    Nancy asks…

                    has the civil class action lawsuit against title-max been settled in court yet?

                    Jonjune answers:

                    Nope…it’ll be years before that happens

                    Paul asks…

                    Do they give you a whole new title back when you pawn your title?

                    I pawned my title at title max. I got it back a couple months later and it looks like they made a new title. It has my current address and mileage. I have never done this before, so is that what they’re supposed to do? Will it affect my tag?

                    Jonjune answers:

                    They probably put a lien on your car when they gave you the money. Now that you paid the loan off, they may have had the lien removed, hence the new title.

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                    From now on, Stay away from these fly by night phony, rip off, loan places

                    Richard asks…

                    is it ok to ask two questions of different subjects ,in one single title for avoiding max limit ?

                    or it is a mis use ,or smartness ,or need ?
                    And what about for those ,who ask more than two and three of different types belonging to a near category .

                    Jonjune answers:

                    No, respect the process.

                    Laura asks…

                    What is the average interest rate when you pawn in your car title?

                    Such as a title max

                    Jonjune answers:

                    These guys are absolute crooks. You’ll pay 25 dollars in interest per 100 dollars borrowed every thirty days. Interest only of course, you never pay down the principal. Do the math and thats 25% per month or 25 x 12 = 300%APR. Just ridiculous. I can’t imagine any situation where paying that kind of interest is a good move. It’ll only put you further in debt, and you’ll end up losing your car. Most people don’t understand what they’re getting into. It’s predatory lending at its worst.

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